What to Say (and What Not to Say) to Someone Who’s Lost a Pet

Supporting a grieving pet owner can feel daunting. Here’s how to offer comfort with kindness, empathy, and the right words – and avoid the phrases that unintentionally hurt.

When Words Feel Inadequate

It’s hard to know what to say when someone loses a beloved animal companion. You may worry about saying the wrong thing or making things worse. But your presence – your willingness to show up – often means more than the perfect sentence.

Sometimes, silence and shared tears are the kindest response of all.

Words That Comfort

Here are a few gentle things that can bring warmth and validation:

• “I’m so sorry for your loss. Coco was such a beautiful soul.”

• “Bella was so lucky to have you.”

• “I can’t imagine how much you miss Rocky.”

• “Would you like to tell me about Leo?”

These words open doors. They tell the grieving person it’s okay to speak about their pet – to share memories, tears, and laughter.

Words That Can Wound (Even When Meant Kindly)

Avoid phrases that might unintentionally dismiss or minimise grief, like:

• “They’re in a better place.”

• “At least they’re not suffering anymore.”

• “You can always get another pet.”

Even well-intentioned comments like these can feel invalidating. Remember, the bond between human and animal is profound – and grief deserves to be honoured.

How to Truly Support Someone in Grief

Grief doesn’t need to be fixed; it needs to be witnessed. Offer comfort through small acts: drop off a meal, send a handwritten card, or simply sit beside them.

If someone you love is struggling with the loss of a pet, encourage them to reach out. At Horizon Palliative Vets, our compassionate end-of-life team can connect them with certified grief counsellors and supportive resources that truly understand.